If they’re telling you about it, it’s probably because they care enough about you to be upfront. They’re being honest, which gives you license to be honest about your feelings about it. That may have come in part by having their attractiveness confirmed in the past. It’s not necessarily with a “perfect 10.” The best sex is with the person who understands you the best.Just try to be aware of when you’re sharing your feelings and when you’re irrationally blaming your partner for hurting you with their past behavior. But make sure you’re not punishing someone for that happened before you met and can’t be undone. You don’t have to worry so much about them leaving you at 45 to go on a motorcycle tour of the nation’s brothels. It may have also come from getting screwed over and healing. Just because you’re jealous doesn’t mean you’re a psycho. Feeling like someone wants you all to themselves can be a huge turn-on. It’s with the person who is the most turned on by you.
So here are mine (and maybe yours) to help you identify some of the dating landmines you might be ignoring.In JRR Tolkien’s epic trilogy, we’re introduced to a character named Smeagol.“She broke into your home, has threatened ”“Yeah,” my old roommate mutters sheepishly, “You were right about that military/crazy thing.”“Oh, this has nothing to with the military….” I say as I imagine a young woman with a vendetta breaking down a door and stealing my clothes.“This chick just happens to be certifiably nuts.”There’s silence on the end of the other line.Shame will creep into the relationship because both people feel their needs aren’t being met, and eventually a co-dependent relationship will blossom in which each person’s happiness is centered solely on whether the other person appears happy. Doom might just be the option you need to dissolve this relationship. Over time I recognized something about people who’s lives seem full of drama.
I dated a girl once whose life was a constant crisis. The common theme that emerged was that everyone seemed to be doing them wrong.
His girl runs his life and anytime he makes a slight error she jumps down his throat.
He is nothing more than an accessory she keeps on a leash.
attack another person’s character flaws instead of looking inward, thus never having to deal with why they thrive on drama to begin with.
This is a defense mechanism they use to avoid the hard work of looking introspectively and discovering that just maybe the reason why they create drama is because they feel they have no purpose or drive; to admit that and give up drama means they have no purpose or importance in this world ).
This will quickly devolve into her spending every waking second wondering why you haven’t called or texted, berating you because your lack of time together shows you “and it’s poisoning not just her, but you too.