“There can be a lot of shame and embarrassment one experiences if they suffer from these disorders.
In a panic disorder, for example, people can actually develop a fear of having panic attacks in public situations, partially for fear of how they will be evaluated.” Expressions of compassion and validation—and keeping a calm and gentle tone—are often the best way to help someone feel understood and less alone in their experience.
This is usually a big lesson for men and women who read my stuff.
It can be challenging when you’re with someone who’s struggling with mental illnesses like anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, or any other condition—especially if you’ve never experienced any of these symptoms yourself.If you’re not familiar with the traits associated with these conditions, many people can underestimate the impact they can have on relationships.You can offer support, but your partner is responsible for managing their symptoms.” Hopefully, your partner has a good therapist, but you may need to find one, too, says Hodos.It’s normal to get frustrated with your partner’s symptoms at times, so having a professional to speak to about how feeling (and who won’t take sides), is important.“Don’t assume he or she is upset with you,” says licensed therapist, Kayce Hodos.
“The biggest challenge you’re likely to face is feeling frustrated that you can’t fix things.
It’s absolutely why cases of BPD and Bipolar seem to be at an all-time high. It’ll smack you across the face out of the blue, leave you wondering what the hell just happened.
Which is what brings me to my next point: There are many, many common mistakes that men and women make which all but guarantee the death of the relationship. But rest assured, it WILL eventually die a slow, slow death. Which then brings you on the internet looking for help in these BPD/Bipolar relationships.
“After all, you both need to be taking care of yourselves for your relationship to be healthy,” she says.
The bottom line is that, despite challenges, a partner who is suffering from a mental illness doesn’t mean you won’t be treated well or that the relationship is doomed.
But I do read them from time to time so I can see what kind of crap they’re preaching to you…