Falling in love with a person with commitment phobia can be a nightmare.
Watch out for signs of commitment phobia before you find yourself hopelessly in love with someone who is not capable of having a relationship.
Instead they will say that they probably will be home by 5. People with commitment phobia have a need for intimacy like everyone else.But their need is not getting met by being close to another human being.Commitment phobia like all phobias is a learned behavior of fear.Namely that people will continue to hurt you in ways that you have been tangibly hurt in the past.Please do not try to make commitment phobia out to be some severe mental disorder.
For one that is quite extreme and there are very specific guidelines for different mental illness.
if a partner is clingy) but it can also be stemming from some serious mental disorder or very traumatic experiences in childhood (or far past).
Definitely, I don't advise you to stay in relationships with partners from whom you feel you don't get what you need, but you better seek the deeper roots of his/her behaviour because they might be needing help but they don't know it yet.
Mood swings and inability to commit are common traits in schizophrenics too.
In conclusion, commitment phobia can derive from something as healthy as introversion and craving for some private space (esp.
He or she will prefer to make same-day plans or commit only a few days in advance. Just as a person with commitment phobia will be afraid of agreeing to dates several days or week in advance, he or she will also have difficulties saying "yes" to a party or meeting, unless this is strictly required of them.