Among them I found a consensus to use OKCupid, despite some gripes.Said one couple I spoke with: “OKCupid has been the most effective in finding long-term partners as opposed to one-off hook-ups.
In 2013, my wife and I made the decision to become nonmonogamous. The first question OKCupid asks new users is this: “Regardless of future plans, what’s more interesting to you right now? ” But, for a couple who is opening their relationship and not necessarily interested in what has been termed “casual sex,” even a question that appears as divisive as “are you looking for love or sex?
We came to the (eventual) agreement to explore a polyamorous lifestyle using OKCupid, a site whose match-based percentage system starts with a series of questions ranging from the seemingly obvious to the unmistakably obvious.
I also know that the big difference between me and Nice Guy is when I get broken up with, I didn't go, "Whyyyyyyyyyy," I went, "Okay, that's sad, but it's true and right and reasonable." (Nice Guy doesn't know what the truth of a relationship is, and I know what the truth of a relationship is.
But I ache that the truth is always "I don't love you, good-bye," instead of "I love you, but good-bye.")I know I am not owed love.
Dear Polly, This weekend, after 18 months together, my boyfriend told me that he cared very deeply for me and that we had the best partnership he’d ever experienced, but he did not love me because there was a spark missing. We’re both in our 30s and the entire thing has been kind and mature and caring (and sexy and vulnerable and honest) from the beginning.
I’ve dated my share of guys who were bad partners, and this guy was a good one. I also know that he was always a little bit on the fence about letting me fully into his life.Why is it missing from my highly evolved partnerships?Sparkless For the full advice column, head over the The Cut.I should be I realize this sounds like a female version of Nice Guy.I'd like to think that there's a difference between "I'm a good person, why won't you date me" and "I'm a good partner, why don't you love me," but maybe there isn't.” immediately sets the tone that these goals are at odds with one another; the Choose Your Own Adventure paths may, it seems, never converge into something resembling a more polyamorous path.