When people use categories to predict an interaction (but not pay attention to the other's real communications, they will produce two outcomes: a), avoiding love from right individuals, and, b) approaching the wrong person(s).This kind of distorted cognitions can only be rectified through the regular and meaningful interactions, which help individuals find out that they are worthy others' love and appreciation.Online daters tend to fill in the information gaps with positive qualities in a potential partner; on the other hand, everyone wants to make the self appear as attractive as possible to potential dates by exaggerating the self desirable traits. There are gender differences in both preference and messaging behavior on online dating sites.
I had a friend who went through numerous dates in a year...slept with some 20 men on these sites before finding her "boyfriend" (who just happens to have a very nice job) it does not look like someone she would necessarily be with, and she certainly does not look all that happy in her situation. How does meeting someone online actually effect later relationships?Second, it does not help heal the emotional pains of some online daters.Online dating is a category-based, rather than an interaction-based process.In the category-based process, one uses some concepts to predict both possibilities of acceptance and rejection by the others. I make a distinction between online communications and online dating/matching.
It is an artificial type because both rejection and acceptance by the daters are not about the rejection and acceptance of real persons, but of the imagined or perceived attributes of their categories. New computer technology has greatly expanded people's potential and freedom to communicate with one another, some of which may generate love and romantic relationships, but online dating/matching, at least in its current format, has restricted the freedom. "It is clear that online dating has at least two problems.It is accurate to say that the research findings showed some behavior and attitudes of the online daters who joined the internet community with different motivations, expectations and backgrounds, but it is inaccurate to assume the behavior and attitudes reflect real interpersonal attractions.This is because the online dating/matching (as provided by the commercial websites) lacks the basic ingredients for developing real love.Seems like this would be a simple study that one of those sites should do!Good suggestions, but please note that the impression and feelings you have about the candidates on the basis of online screening are different from the impression and feelings developed from direct face-to-face interactions.Our singles community is massive, and you're only a couple of clicks away from finding a date.