So I humbled myself and took my grandmother out for dinner to hear why she thought courtship was a bad idea all those years ago.
They were not the Bible-reading, small-grouping, mission-tripping Christian young people common in evangelical churches today.
And yet her community of friends all got married and then stayed married for decades and decades.
I explained what courtship was and quoted Joshua Harris, chapter and verse. “I don’t think courtship is a smart idea,” my grandfather said.
“How can you tell who you want to marry if you aren’t going out on dates? I ignored their advice on relationships, preferring to listen to the young people around me who were passionate advocates of courtship.
Luckily, we both laughed, which was a good sign, and we took ourselves off for coffee...which lasted five hours''Go to a website that looks into the type of person you really are, and matches you properly.
There are sites out there that are just for a one-off date, but if that's not what you're looking for then be more thorough. So what on earth were they doing that worked so well?Over dinner, my grandmother shared her story about what dating was like back in the 30s and 40s.This meant that by the time she was 17 years old she knew which Bob she wanted to marry.They got married and stayed married till my grandfather passed away half a century later.“If I had only gone out with 3 or 4 guys I wouldn’t have known what I wanted in a husband,” she said.