Read on as single parents share their dating dilemmas and Amy Spencer, relationship expert and author of "Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match" solves them. How can I meet a guy when I don't really go out to the bars or clubs anymore?
--Renee, 30, Totowa, New Jersey Solution: Spencer says to rethink that afternoon of fun.
"It's hard to meet your match when everyone you're hanging out with is under three feet tall." She recommends, instead of heading to kid-centered places, to try some kid-friendly ones, where you might be able to scope out a cutie."A museum, bookstore, sidewalk fair, farmer's market, or a park without swings where your kid can run on the grass and play catch are all places where adults hang out too," advises Spencer.But, is it OK to be honest about dating with my child?--Carol, 34, New Haven, Connecticut Solution: Just like you're not lying about having a kid to your date -- don't lie about having a date to your kid.Right or that you have to sneak around like a high schooler.
"Just wait until it really seems as if the relationship is serious and stable.Should I let my date know that I have priorities when it comes to scheduling?I'm ready to meet some women, but should I even bother?Still, less is more, says Deborah Roth Ledley, Ph D, licensed psychologist, founder of the website The Calm and author of "Becoming a Calm Mom: How to Manage Stress and Enjoy the First Year of Motherhood." "Keep it simple and say something like, 'I've been feeling so lonely and it is time for me to start meeting some new people.' If your child asks a question about your date, respond with a short and simple answer, but if they are satisfied with the initial statement, change the subject to homework or something important to them." Parenting.com: The easy way to answer kids' toughest questions When Do I Introduce the Kids?Problem: I've been dating a nice man consistently for seven weeks and I'm wondering if it's time to introduce my 10-year-old son to him. --Diane, 40, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Solution: Just like you don't tell your kid everything, you don't have to introduce them to everyone.The kids will feel more comfortable in their own home and might enjoy bonding by showing the new person their stuff, like a favorite toy or backyard space," advises Ledley. Problem: Face it, even though I'm 29, I have a curfew -- as in I have to get home to relieve the babysitter.