I don’t want to hear men’s horror stories about other woman.
In the past, even with online dating, getting offline was much faster and smoother.Now, there is endless texting, the initial meeting might never occur, and when it does, no one wants to waste their time on a real date. I feel like everyone (myself included) has become emotionally unavailable and unwilling to take the time to get to know each other.Dating process is very time consuming, almost as a hobby or a job.It is hard, because involves a lot of rejection and also inflicting hurt on others, not intentionally, but as part of the process.It’s frustrating to never hearing from a man again after a date, especially if you’ve made tentative plans to meet again.
As a result of this happening, if I know I’m not planning on seeing someone again, I am honest and send a message. Also, when someone persistently contacts me and there is no interest on my part, I send a kind email wishing him well.
But, if you want to find lasting love and you’re over 40, online dating is still your best option.
You’re not socializing with singles on a regular basis. You don’t get set up often, and when you do, it’s usually just because the main thing you have in common is you’re both single.
I dislike the starts and stops, learning about someone new, only to have it crumble because one of you chooses to discontinue.
It’s as hard to be the rejecter just as much as it is to be rejected.
Yet, so many people over 40 despise the whole online dating process. You’re sick of putting effort into writing thoughtful emails that get no response and first dates that drain the life out of you.