Even if I get married, I wouldn’t want to settle down, we would just travel, I would want us to be wanderers and backpackers,” she said.
Since it went viral, she has been inundated with messages from young women who share her outlook and feel inspired by her revolt.
Most are expected to live with their husband’s family, be dutiful to his mother and bear him sons.
She posted her own advertisement – which has since gone viral – in which she described herself as a “speccy dork” and tomboy searching for a beardy macho man who does not like children and is not close to his family.
Her advert was seen as a war cry on behalf of young Indian women, most of whom are still expected to marry a man their parents choose and be a housewife with no ambition of their own.
His comments caused dismay but not surprise in India where women still face sexual violence and intimidation despite the national soul-searching which followed Jyoti Singh’s murder.
A survey by a Bangalore NGO this week found 87 per cent of college students agreed that women should accept a certain degree of violence and 51 per cent believed they should focus on housework and child-raising. She has short hair, is not a “womanly woman” and “definitely not marriage material,” she said.
If the girls sound sassy, sexy and 20-something, it is not a coincidence.
In fact, Tinder, often derided as the “hookup” app (you swipe right to show interest in a profile), announced recently that women are its most active users in terms of sending “super likes”. What if you're actually looking for a special someone?“They say we’ll fight back with their parents and make them postpone their marriages.It’s really overwhelming to see people relate to this and connect it to a bigger problem.It’s part of conservative Indian culture that a woman should not go out after dark and if you do you’re not considered to be from a homely family”, she said.Nilanjana Roy, the leading feminist campaigner and writer, said Indhuja Pillai’s revolt reflected a quiet but growing rebellion among young women.A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy. Housework and housekeeping is for girls, not roaming in discos and bars at night doing wrong things, wearing wrong clothes.