As for the hopeless couple in the coffee shop, they are both ‘in need’ of a relationship — and status and normalcy it confers.
Tell her “I like you” or bluntly ask, “Do you want to go steady?” If she hesitates to answer, simply go back to “The Introduction” part of this article and start all over again.(Love, however, is optional.) The shame of being branded a motaesollo — “a loner since conception” — is after all best avoided and how better to do that than by entering into a relationship?But in many cases, what I see is an expensive ritualised performance of courtship: a prescribed set of inevitable events marching toward the ultimate goal — marriage.But regardless, surrounded by such extreme pressures to conform to societal ‘norms’ and perform set roles, they turn society’s desires into their desires, and they continue to buy into the consumerism of romance.
The inspirational slogans and advertisements from the Olympic Winter Games in Pyeong Chang 2018 can now be seen nearly everywhere in Korea: from television commercials to advertisements all over public transportation.
Women here don’t strive to achieve tanned, toned and athletic bodies that women in the U. As a result, I feel that if I were ever caught in a cat fight here in Korea, I could snap any of the women in half over my knee. When you see couples in public here, you will always find that the man has his arms around the woman, is carrying her purse, their shopping bags, and all the while she is wearing stiletto heels (I could write an entire post on Koreans wearing stilettos at all times of day, while sightseeing, and while wearing sweat pants, but I will save that for another day). (Jason and I actually play a game based on this phenomenon (thanks Britt!
A Korean teacher of ours told us that the men here absolutely love to dote on their girlfriends. ); every time we see a matching couple, we have to be the first one to say “” and we get to hit the loser).
Valentine’s Day, White Day, Pepero Day, the 100-day anniversary…
All are grotesque reminders of how relationship in South Korea has been commodified according to some ideal of Western middle-class romance, and repackaged into a kitschy must-have item.
But until then, dating is expected if one wants to avoid charges of impotence, deviance, or homosexuality.