There's an ebb and a flow, at times slow, tender and sweet but gradually increasing in intensity.But when you're actually kissing a real guy, how much tongue do you use?
They tend to think it doesn't matter as much, that it's not as needed," explains Dr. "I think couples need to prioritize kissing more because that is one of the first things that diminishes.Sex will keep going, but kissing slows down and stops.Both partners should be assertive if they want (to French kiss). Perhaps start off with a forehead kiss, and then a kiss on the tip of the nose - then go in for a kiss.Pull your love close to you by the waist and tell them how good their lips taste on your tongue," says relationship and sex therapist Marissa Nelson. Sometimes people are anxious and jump into the kiss. Make sure it’s mutual and start with meaningful eye contact," explains Dr.In general, the more confident and relaxed you are, the better.
So if you're doubting your make out skills, chill.When it comes to any criticism of kissing (or anything sexual), most people are a little fragile and insecure. Instead of saying ' You use too much tongue' or ' I don't like the way you kissed me,' it's better to say ' Hey, I love when people kiss me with a lot of tongue,' or ' I love when people use less tongue,' etc.And that's actually the whole truth: there is no such thing as a wrong kiss hurts. Nelson's suggestions is for couples to write a list of turn ons and turn offs when it comes to their French kissing styles and share it with each other. It might seem obvious, but it still needs to be said: no one wants to French kiss someone with bad breath.Whether it's the first time or the 100th, French kissing is something that, ideally, should leave your partner feeling weak in the knees.From figuring out the right amount of tongue to use to remembering to breathe, there's a lot that goes into how to French kiss.Look at your partner and also feel their breath," says Dr. There's a fine line between the perfect about of tongue and too much tongue, however."It’s that really beautiful gray area where you're using tongue thereby making it more impactful and hot and sexier than just a closed mouth kiss or a peck on the cheek.