Now he has a non-Jewish girlfriend and they are getting serious. The best solution is to raise serious doubts that this will work long-term.
He has the support of all her friends who are not Jewish. My wife says that if we are not careful we will lose him as a son, and that I should go easy on my remarks and actions. Some ideas: 1) Get them to discuss the topic of Jesus.
It is the most deeply-engrained cultural difference between Jews and non-Jews.There's a video put out by the Reform Movement of America, a real-life documentary depicting a series of group therapy sessions for intermarried couples, designed to help them deal with the unique issues of intermarriage.We raised our children in a home that observed all the major Jewish holidays.I made our children aware of their culture and heritage.Our son was bar mitzvahed and attended Hebrew school for five years.
His friends were all Jewish as he grew up, and he attended March of the Living.
Now I'm not sure our marriage is going to survive." The video shows these couples – none of them religious – describing how the major obstacle in their marriage is the issue of Jesus.
We don't always realize it, but belief in God is an essential part of our identity.
That's simply the default choice in our predominantly non-Jewish society.) But imagine if the child becomes a committed Jew or Christian. If he becomes a believing Christian, he'll think the Jewish parent is going to hell for denying the faith!
And if he turns to Judaism, he'll regard him as a traitor for having intermarried! People who do not profess a belief in any particular religion often turn back to religion later in life.
When a person has to choose one religion over the other, there is always the unconscious sense of choosing one parent over another.