Then, two weeks later, he had a seizure in bed - his eyes rolled into the back of his head, his whole body shook and he was foaming at the mouth. Jon was taken to Hull Royal Infirmary, where scans revealed he had a large brain tumour. I think he decided then that whatever fate threw at him, he would cope. 'I'm not a quitter and, although the relationship was still new, I already knew I was falling in love,' she says.'Having this shadow over us simply intensified everything.' After the tumour was removed in January 2004, the couple set up home together in Hull with Michelle's son, Callum, and tried to get back to normal. Tests after the operation showed that the tumour was a very aggressive cancer and would return.'I told him that I couldn't imagine being with anyone else,' she says.
Lost in her grief, she found herself drawn to the one man who could comfort her.
It is, she says, exactly what Jon would have wanted.
'We were lying in bed when he said he wanted me to meet someone else after he was gone,' says Michelle.
'He said I deserved to be happy again.' One can only imagine, however, that he was relieved by Michelle's response.
While she says that finding solace with another man has helped her to deal with her devastation, some may feel uncomfortable about a widow embarking on a new love affair only a month after her husband's death.
Jon's mother, Val, has been so hurt by her daughter-in-law's behaviour that she has cut off all contact. Yet she is not alone in seeking romance soon after losing her husband.While the term has several meanings, the most frequent usage refers to two people exploring whether they are romantically or sexually compatible by participating in dates with the other.With the use of modern technology, people can date via telephone or computer or meet in person.It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others.The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time.The question of whether you can put a timespan on grief is especially pertinent for Michelle Heidstra.