The ideal woman for this guy is the girl who has been hurt many times by single men and is in the stage where she just wants someone to love her.
And we can’t escape ourselves, which gives it a quality of inescapable hopelessness.
But I’m going to give you some classic cut-and-dry guy perspective.
However, filling the void may backfire on him, as the relationship may escalate from occasional lunches during work hours or early dinners disguised as “working late”, to the more intimate texting and instant messages all night long.
This is hook line and sinker for the woman, as she automatically thinks, “oh, he wants to talk to me so badly that he’s risking getting caught!
The cycle of the love affair with a married man almost always ends in broken hearts, hurt, and wasted time.
Sure you have those once in a million times where the man actually leaves his wife for another, but for the most part, it is a script for adultery disaster. Humans have an amazing drive for consistency and very often we end up seeking out friends and partners who perpetuate that feeling of “rightness”, even when it’s incredibly painful to us. He had the seeds of that person in him all along and as he became more comfortable with you, those seeds blossomed into his way of being. You go into a relationship, however big or small, filled with hope and that amazing feeling of bliss. The book describes how many of our childhood, social and family surroundings shape our sense of what feels “right” in the world to us.If you date a guy who has jerky qualities, you can’t be surprised when he eventually does something extremely jerky to you.Moreover, you definitely can’t take his behavior as any kind of reflection on you… Again, from personal experience, I’ve done and said some pretty regretful things in some of my relationships years ago.The love affair with the married man starts with a man who married for the wrong reasons and thus never truly felt fulfilled in his commitment to the wife.