Only when they schedule an in-person date with someone do they mention their disability.
Tiffiny Carlson calls this “dropping the D-bomb.” Carlson, a writer who uses a wheelchair due to spinal cord injury, has been online dating since 1998.
Clown Dating.com, for instance, is a singles community for professional clowns, aspirational clowns, or people who just find clowns sexy.
And for those ’80s kids who long for the days of “business in the front, party in the back,” Mullet exists.
While society might view their physical difference as one big “Other” sign tied to their backs, these women merely view it as a key part of their identities, one that they’re proud of.“I don’t know that you can make online dating better,” says Woodward.
“You have to make society better.”OKCupid is owned by IAC.
Because of disability trolling, some people may hesitate to disclose their differences right away.
Wheelchair users may only post photos that show their bodies from the waist up, or people with visual impairments may not mention their guide dogs and white canes in bios.
A day running errands in public can involve multiple strangers asking invasive questions about her body and her abilities.
The anonymity of the Internet, however, gives the curious a new kind of boldness.“It’s really kind of a hit and a lot of misses when it comes to online dating,” Woodward says.
Woodward has caught herself paying more attention to her disability than she normally would.
While heading to a first date, for instance, she often can’t help wondering if walking with crutches—which she can do for short distances—would be better than using her wheelchair.
“I always disclose my disability right away in my profile and photos,” she says via email.