However, you mentioned that he shows more of an effort when you “care less”, so I would say that if that’s what works, why not hang back and let him put in the effort.
In the wake of a tsunami of allegations of sexual harassment against prominent men in show business, politics and media, and the stories of the #Me Too campaigns on social media, single New York women find ourselves in a strange position.
On the one hand, we welcome legal protections in the workplace, and many of us also welcome the increased awareness of sexual harassment that media coverage and the #Me Too campaigns have spurred.
In the words of one of the 20 women I’ve interviewed on this topic in recent weeks, “It’s about time.” On the other hand, some of us privately wonder: Does the bitter battle of the sexes playing out incessantly across our TV screens and social-media platforms have a potential downside, especially for singles who truly want to connect?
With society in a state of upheaval over sexual harassment, will men’s historic fears of rejection now be augmented by fear of being accused?
If you like this guy, go with what seems to be working best with him – give him space and let him put the effort in.
Is your life ready to meet a single person that's looking to find someone like you? At a time when many feel that real romance has suffered a major blow due to the explosion of dating apps with their illusion of unlimited companionship at a click, as well as proliferation of online pornography, some say there could be a downside for single women in today’s heightened — some might say hyper — focus on sexual harassment.“When you put it all together, it’s the perfect storm,” said Leigh (name has been changed), 47, an Upper East Side financial analyst.In previous posts, I’ve talked about how when a guy is being flaky, doesn’t text back, or isn’t doing something you want him to do, the worst response is to become needy.In your case, you weren’t needy – you didn’t make a big deal about it and you backed off when he wasn’t putting in the effort that you expect.That always results in the guy becoming more withdrawn.