He may require more of your time and attention than you are able to give.A man's insecurity can arise from both his experiences in childhood and his later adult life, such as having overprotective or neglectful parents, being bullied, have learning challenges, or feeling as if he has not lived up to his own expectations. Shy guys might be cute and endearing, but on a date, it can lead to awkward silences and tension. Spend time together doing friend things, and not only will you get to know him but he’ll learn to drop his guard, too.
If you're up to it read Jan Robert's "The Nature of Personal Reality." On Being Shy and Insecure!So you think you're the only one who has ever been shy and insecure?If he’s nervous and you start acting nervous, it’s going to double the nervous energy and will uncomfortable for both of you.If you like the guy, it’s up to you to become the calming influence in the conversation so he notices that energy.But then, as we mature and meet someone new and different, someone who possibly grew up in a different, unfamiliar world, we stumble, we feel shy and insecure. Tomorrow might be totally different than today and there we are: we have to deal with it.
Yes, life is full of surprises and often we find ourselves at our wit's end not knowing what to make of it.
So you think you're the only one who has ever been shy and insecure?
We all grow up with parents, possibly brothers and sister, school and friends, learn to know them and set up a pattern of how to react to them.
As you start to relax him into a conversation then you can take things a bit deeper and find out more about who he is.
As long as you’re engaged, and interested in what he has to say, he’s going to feel like he’s doing well and he’ll start to relax. The energy you feel from someone affects the dynamic of your interaction.
What would I even do with a girlfriend if I had one?