” Preferences Jessica didn’t look like I expected my future wife to look, but honestly that didn’t matter to me. But as I grew in my faith and my heart changed, my preferences started changing too. It feels more like settling to overlook a godly woman merely because of her ethnicity. There’s nothing necessarily wrong with having preferences, but we have to hold them with an open hand.
Don’t get me wrong, I thought she was beautiful from the first time I met her. My main preference was that my wife be godly, and Jessica was. I know some people who overlook a potential godly spouse because they don’t fit some random preference.
Over that first year, I watched her sacrifice countless hours of her time serving at our church. Our conversation, whether serious or silly, always flowed with ease.
I found women of all backgrounds beautiful, but black girls were my “preference.” But when I arrived on my college campus in 2006, I wasn’t looking for a wife at all.
I just wanted to grow in my faith and get a good education.
But honestly, I didn’t agonize over it or seek counsel about whether it was OK.
I was convinced that she was the woman for me to marry, even though she wasn’t black.
All races of humanity are created in God’s image (Gen. Thus, the mixture of various human blood is not prohibited by God.
In other words, God doesn’t care if different races intermarry.She really loved Jesus and she had this childlike willingness to do whatever He asked.Her compassion for needy people challenged me and she had a humble heart that responded to the Word.And I feel privileged to stand here and serve as part of this amazing effort towards unity in God’s church.As a “Trip’s written a book that I think every young person needs to read.We ran in the same circles and we ended up joining the same church, so we saw each other a lot.